Do you know what you want out of life? If you don’t, it’s foolish to expect anyone else to be able to figure it out for you. Know yourself before you decide to become one with another—that can make all the difference.
Too many men and women are running around looking for a partner to define them. They don’t feel complete without someone standing by their side telling them how important they are because they are loved.
Well, contrary to what you might have been told, you cannot count on another person to make you feel whole. It’s far better to figure out who you are, for yourself, using your own devices, before you place your psyche into the control of another.
See, the trouble with losing yourself into a person is that if that person leaves, you won’t know where to find what you have lost. How will you decipher the real you from the one who was attached to the label of girl or boyfriend? Do you know who you are minus your mate?
The question is the same where friendships are concerned. Don’t attach your identity to the clique you claim or the social group you represent. You have to know who you are before you enter into a relationship, of any kind, with anybody. If you don’t, you aren’t doing yourself or those who wish to claim you, any favors.
Spend some time, alone, finding out exactly who you are now and who you want to be—get secure in that—and then take the steps to find the people who most compliment those ideals.