People describe individuals who aren’t open to change, or new ideas, as “set” in their way—don’t bother engaging those types of people in a conversation meant to evoke an intelligent, productive, debate—you’re wasting your time.
As easy a write-off as that explanation might be, I don’t buy it. Despite what you have been told, no one is set in their way. Some people are simply more resistant to change than others because they fear the unknown and we are all, to some degree, guilty of that.
Over a period of time we become comfortable with the knowledge we have acquired and we don’t look kindly upon people who challenge us on those notions. Our knowledge, derived from years of personal experience, forms the foundation of our paradigms and when those paradigms are challenged, the natural instinct for many of us is to fight back and reject the new. And, we extend those rejections not because we are unwilling to accept that they might be right, but rather because we cannot deal with the possibility that we might be wrong.
It’s as much about ego as it is about principle.
However, none of us can become better versions of ourselves if we choose to remain ignorant to the changes and the people that dwell among us. You must be willing to accept the possibility that what you know isn’t absolute, and you must remain open to more than just what you’ve come to know if you ever expect to learn anything else of substance.
Understand this: As a reasonable, intelligent, and sentient human being, you always have the capacity to evolve—both in mind and in body—that journey is endless. To disrespect that journey, by never giving yourself the chance to accept or understand the unfamiliar, is to lay waste to all the possibilities that life has to offer.
Do not allow yourself to be stifled by a stubborn resistance to change. Trust that you are worth more than that, and allow yourself to become better than even you could have ever imagined.