Monthly Archives: August 2011

A Lovely Blogger Award

Last week I was honored to receive the “One Lovely Blog Award” from fellow blogger and friend, Ally, over at Copacetic In Carolina. I was both honored and excited about the opportunity to receive such an award and am just now getting around to repaying the favor by not only saying ‘thank you’ to Ally via a link back, but also pointing out a few blogs also deserving of a little “love” in return.

Now, the rules of the award are quite simple:

1) Link back to the party who besotted you with said award.

2) Complete the form below.

3) Share 7 random things about yourself.

4) Award 15 bloggers this award and let them know you’ve awarded them.

Easy, right?

Well, lets dig in:


  • Name your favorite color: Lavender
  • Name your favorite song: There are so many, but I’m a big Otis Redding fan and “Cigarettes and Coffee” is right up there with “Sittin’ On The Dock of the Bay”
  • Name your favorite dessert: I don’t have much of a sweet tooth, but I’m a sucker for banana nut bread.
  • What ticks you off: Inconsiderate, ungrateful, and apathetic individuals. Oh, and people who use the self-checkout lane to buy a cart full of groceries—so rude. 
  • When you’re upset you: exercise or do yoga
  • Your favorite pet: don’t have one
  • Black or White: Black
  • Your biggest fear: not being around to watch my children grow
  • Best feature: Not sure.
  • Everyday attitude: Blessed
  • What is perfection: My little girl’s smile and my son’s heart.
  • Guilty pleasure: “House Hunters”, I have no idea why I get such a kick out of watching people look for their home.

 7 Random Things:

  • I don’t drink caffeine. 
  • I don’t like sweet potato pie or sweet tea—yes, I still consider myself Southern 😉
  • My husband and I met after I decided to stop and talk to the handsome fellow who had been waving at me on my way home everyday. It was upon my stopping that he let me in on the secret that he had purposely been placing himself in that particular area (he worked for the university at that time)—I often took the same route home everyday—just on the off chance that he might see me. 
  • I’m very sarcastic.
  • Although I now operate a blog site that is solely dedicated to the sport of college football, I didn’t follow the sport until I became a student at UGA in 1998. 
  • I went to undergraduate school in Iowa.
  • I’m pondering writing a book.

Okay, enough about me, on to the best part of this award—recognizing other great blogs:


    Sunday Soundcheck: I Don’t Want Nobody Always Sittin’ Around Me And My Man

    Aretha Franklin.

    Do I really need to say anything more than that name on this week’s version of Sunday Soundcheck?  She’s the Queen of Soul and there are no comparisons or substitutions that can be made to adequately do her any justice.

    Aretha is where I go when I really want to relax into my womanhood and remember just what confidence, power, and assertion sounds like in it’s musical form. There’s not a song that doesn’t speak to me in a deep way, from “Dr. Feelgood”, a song about her obsession and dedication to her man. A man that has her heart and sensuality so much in his possession that she wants to keep him to herself wholly—he’s the remedy to her heart and soul.

    Whoo! Who can’t identify with feeling that type of passion, infatuation, or whatever you wish to call it, for the object of their affection?

    Aretha keeps it real in her music and her voice is something sent straight from the heavens—no extra production needed and auto-tune need not apply.

    Ladies and Gentleman, Ms. Aretha Franklin:

    “Dr. Feelgood (Love is a Serious Business)

    “A Rose is Still A Rose” ft. Lauryn Hill

    I Will Try To Fix You

    why would you wanna break a perfectly good heart?Building a relationship is difficult. It’s particularly difficult when you’ve been burned because you’re no longer able to trust as easily as you once did and, as a result, you close yourself off. Why? Well, that’s simple, you don’t want to be hurt again, but it’s the layers beneath that which makes it so hard to accept love in your world again.

    Once you’ve been hurt, you are forced to rediscover yourself within this new persona—this persona of a person who has been hurt and left scarred by another—and then you have to decide if the new person you’ve become is ready to do it all over again with someone else.

    Most people reach for the natural defense mechanism of putting up a wall as high as the one they built at Jericho and saying, ‘okay, if you want in, then let me see you knock these walls down’, only then are they willing to give this potential love interest the opportunity to have an honest conversation with them about what they want and how much they are willing to give in return.

    I’ve been there, I’ve done that, and I can tell you without question that this mechanism, this approach to surrendering yourself to love again, serves only one purpose—to make certain that you never find any type of happiness whatsoever.

    The natural order of things suggests that anything worth having is worth working hard for, so it’s not unusual to understand that one who possesses a beleagured heart might believe that any individual who wants a piece of their heart should be willing to walk through fire to get it.

    However, the truth is, when love is real, when it’s truly something of value, you don’t have the desire to put it through those types of gyrations.  You will welcome it freely—despite the possibility of being hurt all over again—because it feels good.

    We have all, to some degree, experienced the pain of a relationship gone wrong, but it’s our ability to recover from that experience that sets the bar for our next venture into love. But, be cautious, don’t expect the person, for whom you next fall, to have all the answers on how to fix you—they will try, but they cannot possibly do it alone. It’s up to you to guide them.

    You have to be willing to give enough of yourself to them that they will be able to find the pieces that are broken and, together, help you mend them and, in some cases, replace them altogether. That’s a journey for you and them to take as a couple.

    If you’re not ready to do that, then you’re not only doing a disservice to your heart, but to theirs as well.