I’m a bit of a perfectionist. I like things to be “like so”, as my mother would say, and I don’t take too kindly to people or things that might upset the balance of what I’m trying to do.
That said, I often take on more than I should because I figure if it’s going to be done right, who better to get it done than good ol’ responsible—and reliable—me!
Well, the flip side to that is, you can get yourself into a world of trouble when such thinking not only leads you to take on more than you should, but places you in the position to fall short or fail in your pursuits altogether.
Whether it’s for a project at work, at home, or in our social circles, we can all become the target for those who might be less motivated, less qualified, or less interested in getting the job done than we are, thereby accepting each delegation as a challenge—even though it can bring on emotional and physical distress.
In my case, I’m so preoccupied with the notion of failure that I purposely over-obligate, over-stress, and over-reach myself to the point of absolute exhaustion even when I know I’ve taken on too much and should ask for help—I just feel like it’s all on me.
As irrational as I know this thought process to be, it’s one borne of experience and it’s a tough habit to break overnight—but I’m working on it.
It’s important to understand that the nature of life is not to be perfect, but to strive for your best version of excellence and part of being able to grow is developing the ability to fall flat on your face and arise stronger than you did at the start.
Life is about being, not being perfect, and I’m praying and striving daily to remember to just breathe, be, and focus on doing what I can.
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