Monthly Archives: November 2011

Woman Calls Cops to Get Rid of Boyfriend and She Gets Arrested Instead

File this story under the heading, “You Can’t Make This Crap Up”, and take a gander at what happened after a Florida woman decided to call the cops to get rid of her boyfriend.

…Mayo called deputies to remove her boyfriend, Robert Worden, according to the Sheriff’s Office. He had just gotten out of the county jail after serving 40 days for obtaining property with a worthless check. Mayo said she was scared of him. Worden, 34, said he just wanted to see his 7-year-old daughter.

The boyfriend agreed to leave the Palm Harbor apartment. But as Worden walked out with the deputies, he pointed to a damaged black 1997 Ford Ranger in the apartment complex parking lot and said he had a story to tell them.

Worden told deputies that Mayo borrowed a neighbor’s pickup on Feb. 4 to drive to Pinellas Park to buy marijuana, authorities said. That night, Worden told deputies, he said Mayo texted him that she had struck a deer.

Then, weeks later, Worden told deputies that Mayo broke down and told him that she had actually hit someone on 66th Street N. Mayo knew the person was dead, according to Worden, but was too scared of going to jail to stop.

First of all, the story begins and ends for me when I discovered the woman killed a pedestrian while on a “weed run”. Seriously? You’re a grown woman, with a child, what the hell are you doing still making “weed runs”? You couldn’t have believed that would end well.

Good grief.

And, here, the cruelest of ironies is stated in the fact that Mayo might have been able to avoid severe punishment had she simpley done the right thing and identified herself as the perpetrator because,  unfortunately for the victim, it was discovered that she “…violated the driver’s right of way that night” and was responsible for the accident.

Unbelievable.

You know who the person I feel the sorriest for in this story happens to be, that woman’s 7-year old daughter. I never understand the thinking of those who bring children into this world, but then skirt responsibility for bringing said child up in as stable and loving an environment as possible. There are so many ways to avoid an unwanted/unplanned pregnancy. I know married people who do this all the time—I was married four-years before we had our first child—so unless a woman is violated, you cannot sell me on there not being a way to hold off on having a child.

What a waste.

This world would be more amusing if so much of what I see happening in it was not true. If it’s not some attention-seeking socialite gunning for her 15-minutes of fame—marrying and divorcing in under 90-days—then it’s the media pointing fingers at The Duggar Family for having too many children (children they take care of without any assistance from the state or anyone else), but giving a woman like Kate Gosselin all the attention and coverage her bad hair and poor priorities can stand.

*Sigh*

Excuse the tone today, dear readers, but my ire is a little up. More positive vibrations tomorrow…or Friday—I promise.

County Agency Removes Obese Boy, Watch Out For That Slippery Slope

A report published in the Cleveland Plains-Dealer this morning discusses the recent removal of an 8-year old boy from his family home due to his being grossly overweight (he weighs 200 lbs).

The obvious reaction to a county run agency stepping in on such an issue is, I believe, summed up beautifully in this one quote from said article.

“…one could get ethical whiplash in a world where one arm of government is so concerned about a child’s weight that it removes him from his home, while another branch of government argues that french fries and tomato paste on pizza should be counted as servings of vegetables.”

Where on earth does the responsibility begin and end on both fronts?

I’ll say right off the bat that I heavily empathize with the mother here because, although she has made strides to curb the unhealthy eating habits of her young son, she has often battled with environmental factors that often undercut her efforts when she’s not around to monitor him.

Furthermore, as a single-mother, living on a substitute teaching income, she does not have the money to enroll her son at the local YMCA or hire the services of a dietician to help her navigate the often confusing world of food.

As one who often takes great pains to read labels and obey serving sizes, I know precisely how challenging it can be to discern the good foods from the not-so-good ones, and I can say that’s this is not a skill that can be developed overnight.

Keeping all of this in mind, how can any agency justify removing this child from his home based solely on his physical condition?

I worked in child protective services for a short time and I can tell you, without hesitation, that I’ve seen more children left in homes where physical and verbal abuse are present than I would have liked and those same children exhibited signs of abuse at the time of the investigation–yet they remained with the parents because removal was a last resort.

So, what’s the message we’re sending in this instance, you can abuse your child, but if you feed them too much, we’re gonna take them away?

Sounds silly, if you ask me.

How about you try to help fix what’s broken before you destroy families who don’t have the resources to make immediate changes to a learned—and heretofore unchecked—lifestyle.

I’m not making excuses for this mother–I applaud this agency for being proactive and taking the steps necessary to address this matter– However, instead of removing a well-adjusted child into a foster homes (prior to the removal, this boy was on the honor roll) how about you offer alternatives to the parent?

The article states that the agency has looked into moving the child to a home where a personal trainer exists. How about gifting the mother a gym membership and arranging bi-monthly visits with a registered dietician who can assist them in reaching their goals?

Why stress county/state funds by doling out money to a foster parent—who can request reimbursements for travel to and from medical appointments and also receives a monthly payment for keeping said child in their home—enrolling yet another individual into the medicaid program (because you can bet that money for this boy’s healthcare will need to come from somewhere),or setting up yet another situation where food stamps will be needed just because you’re not thinking outside the box?

Obesity isn’t a community problem, it’s a social one,and a fix for it is needed at every level—starting with the federal government.

I’m all for offering help to those who are actively trying to make a change in the way their families think about food, but that change will take time—particularly if that particular family is struggling to make ends meet and the cheapest food available is often not the healthiest—but don’t confuse intervention with education.

Think first, then act.

Never Doubt the Importance of Being Financially Fit

I’m not debt-free. There, I said it.

Sometimes I feel like a working poor person…wait, scratch that, a highly-educated, working, poor person.

Okay, maybe technically, I don’t actually have a job in the 9-to-5-FICA-takes-half-my-salary- vacations-come-only-when- earned sense of the word but, make no mistake, I do have a job.

My husband does the working and it’s my job to take care of this home we made together with our two beautiful children. That job is one without end and one I wouldn’t dare trade for a job in the more traditional sense of the word.

That said, my delicious darling of a husband spends his days working hard to satisfy our desire to be both the family that lives within their means and the one that doesn’t sacrificing the pure joy that comes from living in a world where so many options for adventure exist.

So, as of now, we splurge on one big vacation a year. Last year it was Atlanta for big fun in the city (aquariums, museums, malls, and such) and this year it’s a week in Washington for the Cherry Blossom Festival–and a chance to expose our little ones to the beauty and history of our nation’s Capitol–and next year it’ll likely be California or Chicago.

Also, birthdays and holidays are always treated like major events in our home and we make an effort to always include something educational into everything we do because we want our children to be as knowledgeable as possible about the world they will someday contribute to shaping.

Most trips and special events are planned months in advance and then budgeted to the nth degree so that nothing is left to chance or credit card, but, I’d be lying if I said I’d forsaken the use of such vices here and there to fill in the gaps. A habit I developed in undergrad that spilled over into my graduate work.

I worked my way through grad school and tried to do as much as I could not to accumulate too much debt through taking put unnecessary loans, but that became difficult when credit came easier than cash. So, I didn’t pass up many opportunities to use that plastic lifeboat when I felt I needed to for whatever reason.

Trust me, I expect no sympathy for the choices I willfully made with money. I made them, they are mine to bear. However, as a mother and wife who has often struggled to maintain the freedoms that having money can grant you, I know I want more.

More for our retirement, more for our children’s educations, more mini-vacations during the year, and more peace of mind when times are hard.

I won’t be reinventing the wheel with anything we do, but by doing simple things like buying items on a cash-only basis, applying any surplus money earned towards reducing debt, and concentrating only on debt elimination–as opposed to debt addition–I expect to decrease our debt limit by 75% within 2-years and be nearly out of debt within four.

Trust me when I say it will
Take a great deal of budgeting and monetary discipline, but the reward is greater later for any sacrifices we make now.

Never doubt that being financially fit is every bit as important as being physically fit. It’s something we should all strive for in our lives and we should be willing to do what’s necessary to get our wallets and checkbooks in shape.

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